Mental health—we all want it, but how do we get it and keep it? How is it connected to physical health? What should I do if I know something is wrong, but I don’t know where to go for help? Why is there so much stigma around the admission that I may need therapy or medications? Most people have had to face these questions at some point, but coming out on the “other side” is different, and using the struggle and triumph of our own weaknesses can bring hope and healing to others. My guest today has “been there,” and he’s here to share advice, wisdom, and answers.
Anthony Hayes had lived in the darkness of anxiety and depression for years, up until a decade ago. He has since become an author, podcaster, blogger, and most importantly, a father. He’s a good friend and I’m excited for you to meet Anthony!
Do you make time for yourself? If you aren’t healthy and taking care of yourself, then you can’t help others. It comes down to the familiar “airline oxygen mask on yourself first,” before you look to help someone else. Many people make the mistake of trying to help others without taking care of themselves. Taking care of ourselves gets lost in the shuffle of life. Anthony’s advice is to make the time for yourself, whatever that means for you. You deserve it!
TWEET: “Make the time for yourself, whatever that means for you. You deserve it!” @ahayes_mmi
What to do when you feel “off”
Would you have the courage to seek help if you knew you were mentally unwell? For Anthony, there wasn’t a major event or trigger, but he just woke up one day and felt “off.” He knew he needed professional help, so he arranged to see a doctor. He wrote his book as a therapy session for himself, when he dealt with major depressive disorder, ADHD, and insomnia. He says you have to WANT to change and find the balance, motivation, and medications that will work for you. It’s a long journey that requires daily maintenance.
TWEET: “You have to WANT to change and find the balance, motivation, and medications that will work for you.” @ahayes_mmi
Living with depression
How many people around you are dealing with a diagnosed depressive disorder? You probably don’t know, because there are people all around us who live fully functioning lives–in spite of battling depression. Most of us assume that a mental health issue is debilitating and will keep someone from living life daily, but that’s not the case. We all need to realize that our mental health has an effect on our loved ones around us–it’s not just about me. Anthony copes with his down days in ways he has found to be successful for him, and the dark days are less frequent now than they used to be. He finds healing in writing and music, and now uses his experiences to reach out and help others.
TWEET: “There are people all around us who live fully functioning lives–in spite of battling depression.” @ahayes_mmi
Guest Recommendation: ONE action for a dream chaser to take–”Create small habits every single day that will propel you to bigger attainable goals and habits. Integrate those into your daily life. Don’t be stagnant, but keep trying new things.”
OUTLINE OF THIS EPISODE:
- [:31] Why I wanted Anthony on the show
- [1:23] Looking at your vibes here at the end of 2018
- [2:25] A new year and a new chance
- [5:15] Finding time to be selfish
- [8:15] A selfish move for Anthony
- [10:00] Anthony’s experience with mental health
- [13:20] Finding self-realization
- [14:46] Constant maintenance of mental health
- [16:00] It’s OK to admit that you need help
- [18:39] Why mental health resources are so important
- [22:44] Advocates for mental health
- [24:07] Living life with depression
- [26:51] Seeing the physical effects of mental illness
- [27:59] Getting help for mental health for YOU
- [29:55] Shining the light of positivity and survival
- [34:55] ONE action for a dream chaser
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The Science of Being: Surviving Depression by Anthony Hayes
National Alliance on Mental Illness: www.nami.org
TWEETS YOU CAN USE:
TWEET: Blame whoever you want, as long as it’s not yourself. @ahayes_mmi #chasingdreams
TWEET: Everybody needs a refresher and a do-over every now and then. @ahayes_mmi #chasingdreams
TWEET: Your physical health affects your mental health, and vice versa. @ahayes_mmi #chasingdreams
TWEET: Making time for yourself is really important. Be selfish. @ahayes_mmi #chasingdreams
TWEET: If your brain doesn’t work right, then your body won’t work right. It’s science. @ahayes_mmi #chasingdreams